When cheating happens in a relationship
In a recent interview with David Letterman, Jay Z opened up cheating on his wife Beyoncé and showed remorse. When cheating happens in a relationship, I tell my patients showing remorse, stopping the affair and getting help, so it does not reoccur is essential to making up, not breaking up and staying together after adultery.
Often the relationship gets better as it did with my parents after an affair since it can be a catalyst to work through the real issues finally that were disguised before. An affair makes the couple take seriously the real issues camouflaged by the affair.
It’s necessary to learn the best way to confess an affair and how to confront an affair if you want to save the relationship.
Most relationships can be saved even after an affair, as long as you know tips like this These tips are taken from my book Adultery: The Forgivable Sin – How to confess an affair – Chapter 9 and for the deceived how to confront AND GET ANSWERS !!!)
The things I recommend not to do are: Do not ask are you having an affair, no open-ended questions if you want the truth!!!, Don’t beat around the bush, and don’t threaten if you want the truth. If you confess – timing is everything, but not if your partner is heavily stressed that day!!
When you answer these questions, remember sometimes honesty can be cruelty, so no gruesome details, so your partner does not leave, due to words he/she will never forget.
For more tips check out my book Adultery: The Forgivable Sin – Turned into a movie Unfaithful: Discovery Health that goes over my new groundbreaking theory for the cure and treatment of adultery.
If your relationship is at risk because of an affair, I am here to help you. Your relationship can be saved despite an affair. I have a 98% success rate with my patients staying together after the betrayal of an affair. You can reach me directly at 212-606-3787 with your relationship questions.
Here is to finding and keeping real love!
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D. – Love and Relationship Therapist, Mentor & Coach
The best-selling author of:
Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery
Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples