Low doses of pot reverses memory loss and can halt mental decline
A new German study has found that low doses of pot reverses memory loss and can halt mental decline. Could this be a breakthrough for old age and altzeimers? A patient just sent me this info this morning . I love how my patients are so eager to share with me as I do with them so we can share with you. It’s like that song reach out and touch somebody’s hand . The low dose is the key possibly to this study because an internist I work with regarding my patients who have addictions like adultery and pot or alcohol (I call the biochemical craving for connection) finds excessive pot smoking alters judgement and decesion making for monogamy for instance and affects energy levels and possibly fertility.
High School Students React to 13 Reasons Why
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What an amazing reaction to Netflix’ “13 Reasons Why”! These students are inspiring. This reminds me of when I sat at a Broadway show and was surprised to find myself sitting next to the person who wrote the song! When the song came on and Simpson heard the lyrics “reach out and touch somebody’s hand,” she grabbed my hand. Reaching out (like the song says) can give hope and boost someone ‘s need for positive energy to flow through the other. Another person can make the difference in someone else’s life just by being there and understanding and creating choices and options to live. The will to live comes from hope. Kudos to these students for reminding all of us that there’s always a way with help.
If you or your child wants to speak about this more, contact me at www.doctorbonnie.com
It’s Time to Buck the Trend of Sex Before Dating
Young singles are dating less and hooking up more for sex before they even go on one date.Whether the trend comes from the various opinions that young adults are not interested in commitment (after all many of their parents divorced), have more access to online porn, are too busy working and going to school to date, or want to delay relationships, the research is clear that dating patterns are changing, and confusion abounds. Even the word “hookup” means different things to different people. For some hooking up means casually hanging out. For others hooking up means having a sexual encounter. I hope that young adults reach a consensus that undefined relationships and casual encounters are not satisfying in the long run, and the ambiguity can cause more loneliness and heartache. These students will not be prepared to fall in love and stay in love, nor will they have developed important relationship skills when they are ready for committed relationships.
There is no getting around the reality that emotional attachments are developed in sexual relationships. In my book Make Up Don’t Break Up, I take a sensible and emotionally safe approach to teaching couples how to nurture friendships, and communicate feelings—which gives clarity and eliminates conflicting expectations. However, with this trend of college students hooking up without dating first, women are not only lowering their standards for what they might want or need from a relationship, they don’t even know the person well enough to determine whether they might want him to stick around.
In Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying videos Falling in Love and Staying in Love, I teach skills for nurturing and growing lasting relationships. The lack of dating before sex tells me that young adults are sleeping with virtual strangers, which is alarming. And, this casual hook up trend will not help people understand how to get a relationship started.
Women Ignored On Mother’s Day More Likely to Cheat
There are consequences for ignoring Mother’s Day. According to AshleyMadison.com—a website dedicated to helping married individuals find partners to have affairs, one of the biggest days of the year for female signups is the day after Mother’s Day (along with the day after Valentine’s Day). Data from the site reports that women are ignored or devalued during holiday’s they deem important—Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day, become disillusioned with their relationship, and many seek attention from men outside their relationships immediately following these holidays.
Husbands who ignore their wives send a message that their work is not appreciated. Women work an extra 36 hours a week on home and family-related tasks, above and beyond their jobs outside the home. Mother’s Day offers a structured way to honor their contribution. It is imperative that men honor the work involved in being a wife, mother, and holding down a job outside the home, especially on Mother’s Day—the one day of the year husband’s can honor the dedication and specialized work involved in being a mother. A partner who deflects ignores or devalues Mother’s Day sends the message that he takes his wife for granted.
A husband is doing more than honoring his wife on Mother’s Day. He is sending a message to the children that their mother deserves recognition for her priceless contributions to the family. Children have emotional antennae, so dads should get their children involved in making gifts and surprising their moms with tender sentiments.
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Here is to finding and keeping real love!
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D. – Love and Relationship Therapist, Mentor & Coach
The best-selling author of:
Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery
Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples
Adultery: The Forgivable Sin – Turned into a movie Unfaithful: Discovery Health
Financial Infidelity; The #1 Relationship Wrecker
Men Pair Up Quickly After Divorce, but Women Bounce Back Better
After divorce or the end of a long-term relationship, men tend to live alone for about three months before pairing up again. It’s easier for women to bounce back after divorce. Men tend to think of themselves as the independent one on the relationship but what they often find is that they’re actually dependent on the woman in their life. When that woman is gone, they begin the quest to find someone to fill that role.
Though not always the case, men often don’t know what they’ve got till it’s gone. They don’t realize that women do a lot of things that are integral parts of life, and they take them for granted. Women tend to take charge of the social calendar, nurture the relationship, and take care of a myriad of details. In this way, men need women but sometimes don’t want to admit it. This can make being single after a long-term relationship that much harder.
This comes from the wound they have from childhood when they’re separating from their mother and learning to be masculine. But often this happens before they’re truly ready and into adulthood they continue to seek out women who can fill this nurturing void.
While women naturally do better after a split, that doesn’t mean that men can’t rebound healthfully – and it’s imperative that they do. Since so many second marriages also end in divorce, they need to think especially hard before jumping right back into the relationship game. Men should ask themselves what they want and need in their next partner to discover what, if any, voids they’re trying to fill. Instead of spending energy after a breakup looking for the next relationship, men should take that time to work on themselves and how to grow as a person in the areas where they may have been relying on their partner.
It’s Time to Talk Credit Scores!
Avoid financial infidelity—the #1 relationship wrecker and a pre-cursor to infidelity—by talking about credit scores/finances early in the relationship—even on the first date! Good credit is sexy. The way people handle their money tells you a lot about how they handle romance and sex. Talk about your financial personality early on. Don’t wait until your relationship is at a critical point.
Financial Infidelity is more widespread than many think; studies show that 60% of couples say it is just as destructive as cheating. More than 34 percent of men and women keep money secrets from their spouse. Want to know if someone will remain faithful? Check their credit score. All the attributes required to maintain good credit, like trustworthiness and honesty, also apply to good relationships. Credit scores are like the dating equivalent of a sexually transmitted disease, giving a sense of someone’s financial past the same way an S.T.D. test gives some information about a person’s sexual past.
Make money talks sexy by using my Smart Heart Skills and Dialogue. This dialogue acts like glue when a relationship is new, and includes in a non-threatening way discussing credit scores early on so a relationship doesn’t stop before it starts. For singles who can’t find or keep loving relationships, these skills can help them get past that all-important third date.
To learn more about my Smart Heart Skills and Dialogue and infidelity—financial or otherwise—please check out to her books “Make Up, Don’t Break Up,” (winner of the New Times best dating book, 2010) which includes a DVD “Falling in Love and Staying in Love” and “Financial Infidelity, the #1 Relationship Wrecker.” You can also view a short video on financial infidelity at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JMlPVftn-E0&t=1s
Tips to Bring Back Sizzle
Wouldn’t life be easy if people were like mood rings where they would change color depending on mood? Or perhaps were like Facebook where you could read their mood status at any given moment? Many couples may know their partner is unhappy but they don’t know how to change it and make it better. How to bring back the honeymoon feeling of when they first fell in love and bring back the “romance magic” that sizzle of when they first met! I specialize in assisting couples in finding that spark that initially started the fire between the couple. Couples need to fight fair to air the issues weekly to create the passion the relationship needs.
Some tips for couples to get back that sizzle:
Check in daily to see if your partner is feeling loved the way they need to be loved, are they getting enough attention and are all their needs met? Significant others need to walk in each others shoes to feel how they feel.
Couples should give verbal aphrodisiacs daily to increase the passion and each others self esteem. Tell your partner something that will make them feel good daily, you’re so beautiful, I love your hair that way, dinner is amazing. Verbal aphrodisiacs are imperative in any relationship.
Give each other a 30 second kiss and 20 second hug to bond you and increase the oxytocin levels in your brain. This is the feel good hormone that will make you feel like you first fell in love.
Everyone needs to learn the keys to a lasting relationship, and the importance of fighting fair. Relationships require daily work and daily rituals to keep strong. Learn more tips to keep every relationship feeling new in my online course. https://www.ed2go.com/online-courses/marriage-and-relationships?tab=detail
How to have a winter affair with your own partner
As Storm Stella prepares to blanket the Northeast with snow, I implore you to use it as an excuse to make some long-lasting winter memories! While not being able to get to scheduled appointments – like work, school, meetings, etc – can be stressful, it’s important to use the mandatory down-time to rekindle a spark with your significant other. Refocus this downtime and put it to good use.
Here are a few of the things you can do to have a winter affair with your own partner:
Mix up a hot drink and then cozy up with each other. Whether it’s hot chocolate or hot toddy, getting warm together doesn’t HAVE to involve sex! Start out with something simple like a drink to warm up and snuggle up together by reading a book, playing a game, or beginning a project.
Let it lead to sex. Studies show that during big storms people usually make love, make babies or fight. Starting by reconnecting with something simple (a book, a game, etc.), can lead to a more intimate conclusion. Make the most of your time indoors, since there’s nowhere else you can be, even if you wanted to. Instead of letting obligations cause stress, let go of responsibilities by having an affair with your own partner.
Get outside. That’s right ~ it may be cold but when people don’t have anywhere to be, why not relive the excitement that snow days brought as a kid? These types of opportunities often bring out our inner child, so go with it, get playful and see where it leads. Couples may learn something new about each other, discover something new they can do together (who doesn’t love making snowmen?), and if nothing else, have a good time goofing around together.
Recreate the chemicals couples experienced when they first fell in love. Take this opportunity to give a 30 second kiss and/or 20 second hug to reconnect and fall back in love.
Determining if You Have a Viable Relationship
Women often ask how they can determine if the man they’re dating is someone with whom they can have a viable relationship. Here are some guidelines on keeping the relationship going and when you should let go.
- He makes movement toward you
- He is somewhat conscious of his needs and is willing to be taught about yours
- He is willing to look at his distance and closeness issues
- He spends more time with you, even if he says he doesn’t want to get serious
- He validates your feelings and needs
- He is connectable by instruction (Men need a prescription. They are logical and like to know exactly what to do)
- He treats you like you’re invisible
- He is not spending time with you and keeps making excuses
- He puts you last
- He can’t meet any of your needs
- He calls you demanding (because he can’t meet them)
- He’s inconsistent
- He’s dishonest
- He’s not willing to be conscious of your relationship and work on it together
People who play together, stay together.
According to the Journal of Personality and Social Sciences, couples who engage in adrenaline-raising, novel activities are happier. That doesn’t mean that you have to bungee jump or skydive but you do have to do something playful. You can’t just go on a date and have dinner together, you have to engage in high energy play. Any fun, novel, and exciting activity can bring that sex spark back.