Couples Don’t Know How to Stay In Love

39 percent of Americans think marriage is obsolete. Dr. Bonnie believes this is because couples fall in love without the skills to stay in love. Dr. Bonnie’s book Make Up Don’t Break Up with the online DVD Falling in Love and Staying In Love teaches couples Smart Heart Skills, which offers a bridge from infatuation to emotional intimacy.

Dr. Bonnie responds to the survey reporting that 39 percent of Americans said marriage was becoming obsolete: “Couples don’t have skills for staying in love, and mistakenly believe that marriage will make them fall out of love.”

“Marriage takes skills, and it easy for couples to become complacent, especially if they don’t know how to build emotional intimacy. Since it takes work and finesse, commitment is key when there are difficult challenges.

Conversely, couples who don’t get married can have one foot out the door, and when the going gets tough, believe they have an escape hatch.”

The high percentage of Americans who believe that marriage is becoming obsolete correlates with the U.S. census data released in September that showed marriages hit an all-time low of 52 percent for adults 18 and over.

“Living together without getting married is a strong statement that couples don’t think the relationship is going to last,” says Dr. Bonnie. “It is a cop out for people who don’t know how to stay in love. Couples need to add novelty, adventure, curiosity, and engage in those activities they participated in when they fell in love.

“People need to learn the Smart Heart Skills and dialogue that I teach on the DVD “Falling in Love and Staying in Love” which is available online with purchase of my book Make Up Don’t Break Up. The Smart Heart skills I teach are the glue to keep the relationship new,” says Dr. Bonnie Weil.

“A commitment to marriage is an intentional decision to stay in love.” In the book Make Up Don’t Break Up Dr. Bonnie teaches relationship building dialogue as well as ways to rekindle the romance magic and bring back those beginning stage feelings.

“When the honeymoon phase of a relationship ends (anywhere from 12-36 months) a couple might believe they have fallen out of love. This is a very important time of transition where skills are needed to move into the next phase of their relationship,” explains Dr. Bonnie. “Staying in a relationship takes work, but the payoff is an emotionally connected and intimate union where memories are made.

For more information on SmartHeart skills, check out her book, winner of NY Times Reader’s Choice Award, “Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples” for more magic in marriage.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists and US Commerce association as Manhattan’s best therapist. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (including online video: How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity: Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationship Wrecker.

Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary “Unfaithful” and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.

Dr. Bonnie is available for phone therapy. Call 212-606-3787 for more details and to schedule an appointment with Dr. Bonnie.