| Define the Currency of your Relationship
Questions from Dr Bonnie:
 Are you putting your money FIRST, perhaps it’s a stand-in for love?- Are you allowing money to define the Currency of your relationship?
Put Money in its Place
Don’t wither in a relationship struggling over money, when what you both need is the love to help you find the courage and belief, to get through tough times.
- See the Importance of agreeing to put money in its place, in order to reclaim your relationship, and reconnect to each other.
- Make each other more important. Ask each other on a REGULAR basis, using money Smart Heart dialogue, these questions to assess whether money is taking control of the relationship.
a. Do I love my partner the way my partner wants to be loved? Does money play into that? In what way? And visa versa.
b. Am I or my partner using money to show love, rather than sharing physical and emotional intimacy?
c. Am I happy in this relationship each day? Is my partner happy each day in this relationship?
d. Am I or my partner using money to feel happier?
Smart Heart Dialogue from a partner:
“Love is more important than money. I don’t know what I was thinking when I chose to neglect you in favor of work. There are many jobs but there is only one you! Thank you for coming into my life, and being YOU.”
Smart Heart Saavy:
Do what works, not just what seems fair. Prioritize and cherish connection over money, that’s what works!
From Financial Infidelity, Chapter 5, Pg. 208
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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil is a renowned international relationship therapist and owner of a NYC private practice, with over 35 years of experience. She specializes in issues related to families, dating, marriage, and infidelity. She developed a theory for addiction called the Bio Chemical Craving for Connection. She is a five-time award winner as New York City’s Best Therapist. Dr. Bonnie is the author of 5 books including best seller and NY Times Readers’ Choice Award winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (including online video: How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity: Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationship Wrecker.” Her book “Adultery: The Forgivable Sin” was turned into the Lifetime movie, “Silence of Adultery.”
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on a 3 day series on The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show5 times and received Best of Oprah in May 2013. She frequently appears on CNN, CBS, NBC, ABC, Fox News and Good Morning America. She has also been featured many times in USA Today, Men’s Health, The New York Times, and Cosmopolitan. Dr. Bonnie also teaches an Education 2 Go Course on “Marriage and Relationships: Keys to Success.
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