How to Re-Romaticize Your Relationship!
Financial Infidelity: Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationship Wrecker by Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD
Most relationships can be re-romanticized. An important touchstone for couples are the “mini connections” of little rituals that show affection on a DAILY BASIS. These rituals make and reaffirm memories that heal us, protect us and our relationship or marriage and give us an energetic lift. These attachment techniques can become rituals which boost your connection romantically, by the stimulation of the “cuddle” hormone called oxytocin especially during stressful times!
These are some examples of tried and true attachment skills to practice regularly to keep the fires burning with desire for a physical connection with your partner.
- Cuddle in bed for 20 seconds when you first wake up and before bed time for a dopamine rush making you feel more “alive” and happy with your loved one.
- Kiss for thirty seconds to increase the oxytocin levels to feel safe and bonded to your partner to “feel” the love.
- Say “verbal aphrodisiacs” for three minutes each day unprompted. An example of Smart Heart dialogue: Tender words: “You are beautiful and a great nurturer and cook.You are so loved.”
- Hold hands daily.
From Financial Infidelity by Dr Bonnie, Step 6 Refinancing Your Relationship from pages 227 and 228.
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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil is a renowned international relationship therapist and owner of a NYC private practice, with over 35 years of experience. She specializes in issues related to families, dating, marriage, and infidelity. She developed a theory for addiction called the Bio Chemical Craving for Connection. She is a five-time award winner as New York City’s Best Therapist. Dr. Bonnie is the author of 5 books including best seller and NY Times Readers’ Choice Award winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (including online video: How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity: Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationship Wrecker.” Her book “Adultery: The Forgivable Sin” was turned into the Lifetime movie, “Silence of Adultery.”
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on a 3 day series on The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show 5 times and received Best of Oprah in May 2013. She frequently appears on CNN, CBS, NBC, ABC, Fox News and Good Morning America. She has also been featured many times in USA Today, Men’s Health, The New York Times, and Cosmopolitan. Dr. Bonnie also teaches an Education 2 Go Course on “Marriage and Relationships: Keys to Success.
Dr. Bonnie is also available for phone therapy. Call 212-606-3787 for more details and to schedule an appointment with Dr. Bonnie.
