February 13th is Pre-Valentine’s Day for mistresses. According to an AOL Report the 13th or the day before Valentine’s Day is busier for florists, restaurant reservations and lingerie stores due to a “Madonna-Whore complex (where he sees a woman as a whore/lover or wife-saint)”, husbands are out with their mistresses, as Dr. Bonnie stresses.
The husbands are wining and dining their mistresses at the same restaurants they take their wives to the next night, as maitre ‘d winks to husband! So women be forewarned and heed those the following warning signs:
- He is tired on Feb14th
- Forgets the day altogether
- He’s distracted
- He’s distant
He may over correct to make up for his “second fiddle” mistress by giving her expensive jewelry and you, the wife, a non-romantic gift like a blender or crockpot. If he has a mistress he will also forget those romantic pleasantries like flowers, candy, or cards for the wife, saving it for a mistress. Research shows cheating husbands spend over two times the amount on mistresses to make up for “sloppy seconds .” Other warning signs are he starts fights when you are flirty or playful, or rejects you physically when you wear sexy lingerie. He may have that Madonna-whore syndrome! Another sign he is cheating is he starts an argument to get out of taking you out on Valentine’s Day which alleviates his guilt for his cheating heart! The Madonna-whore complex is the splitting the wife in half emotionally. He sees the wife as Madonna, mother of his children, put on a pedestal as a Madonna, representing security, “home,” familiarity. He will then struggle to shift gears to see his wife as a sexy, erotic partner, due to the “splitting,” as a protective mechanism as I explain in my book Adultery: The Forgivable Sin.
In Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples I give you ideas on how to have sizzle on Valentine’s Day and every day!
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Here is to finding and keeping real love!
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D. – Love and Relationship Therapist, Mentor & Coach
!Best-selling author of:
Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples
Financial Infidelity; The #1 Relationship Wrecker
