New York, NY…………….As the world goes gaga over the upcoming royal wedding for Prince William and Kate Middleton on April 29, 2011, Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil is optimistic that their marriage is on the right track—and gives the young couple a thumbs up. “This couple has been together for several years, broken up at least once, and are clearly over the starry eyed phase of their relationship,” says Dr. Bonnie adding that breaking up jolts couples into appreciating each other more. “When couples are faced with losing each other through a break up, they realize how much that person means to them.”
In her book—the NY Times Reader’s Choice award winner for best dating book of 2010—Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying In Love, Dr. Bonnie refers to breaking up as a ‘brush with death.’ This ‘near death’ experience either makes couples closer, or signals the end. The fact that Prince William and Kate got back together after a separation is a testament to their commitment, and skills for weathering relationship storms. A break in a relationship offers a man the opportunity to “sow some oats” and finish his “single” cycle without feeling he is deprived of romantic experiences. In the case of this royal couple their brush with death resulted in a break up to make up.
“Since the couple has been together for eight years, they are clearly open eyed about each other. That honeymoon phase of new love where couples see each other through rose- colored lenses and are on a biochemical high is a dangerous time to make long- term commitments. It is only after the newness wears off, they can see each others perceived faults, and they learn how to communicate and connect, that couples can make wise choices about their future,” explains Dr. Bonnie.
Dr. Bonnie further approves of the couples decision to break with royal tradition and live without servants underfoot and surrounding them. “This couple shows good boundary setting within a family tradition steeped in privacy encroachment. They obviously understand the need for alone time, and know that privacy creates an environment where emotional intimacy can thrive.”
While everyone loves a fairy tale, no one likes one to end badly. With more than half of all marriages in the US ending in divorce, Dr. Bonnie advises couples to seek premarital counseling, and follow the guidelines for communicating through the Smart Heart Dialogue instructions in her book Make Up Don’t Break Up.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples) and winner of the NY Times Reader’s Choice award for best dating book 2010, Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy).
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary “Infidelity” and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at www.DoctorBonnie.com.
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