ALERT: TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THE SUMMER HEAT WAVE
Men are more amorous in HOT climates!
Research tells us sixty-two percent of men feel more amorous, in hot climates. This is why the country of Greece has such a high incidence of adultery, as I was told when I visited there! I personally advocate making lemonade from lemons. So, since men are more amorous in hot climates take advantage of the “sizzle” outside and inside and have an affair with your own partner during these HOT summer days and nights!
If your relationship or marriage feels like you are just roommates and you don’t know how to take advantage of you or your partner being more amorous, make more happen OUTSIDE the bedroom to turn each other on (unlike roommate behavior), so try this! Make mindless moments matter by feeling “excited” with your partner when you are outside the bedroom.
My overworked and distracted couples do not save this “turned on connection” I call it, not just for the bedroom like most! They know it’s the foreplay for later or tomorrow that helps turn on the other by doing mini-connections.” This can be holding him or her close or passionately kissing before he or she goes out the door to work, or the same greeting when he or she returns home. Savor that moment when you are looking in each other’s eyes or stroking each other’s hair. Cuddling and looking in your partner’s eyes before bed, even if exhausted, goes a long way for a “promise” that you can’t wait for tomorrow!
Showing these displays of affections sets the stage for the romantic, not roommate scenario. Steamy outside and steamy inside, created during those exciting mindless moments of touch, kissing or stroking or cuddling, away from the bedroom will bring you back to the bedroom! What happens outside the bedroom ends up inside the bedroom!
Only a few moments of that longer gaze or kiss makes us all amorous. If more of us did this, we could reduce adultery and divorce. We all want to be loved and made to feel special. Make those moments count and don’t use the excuse of “I don’t have time.” Make the time! It’s exhilarating like exercising, and bonds you to your partner. This is why my husband and I have Fantasy Friday’s, for the last 29 years we’ve taken Friday’s off from our practices to be alone with each other, we take turns with the planning. So every week, one of you gets to pick your fantasy and the other one plays along.
Your Fantasy Friday could be as innocent as going to a hockey game. One of my patients’ fantasies was to be “picked up” by her mate. They arrived at a nightclub separately and he had to win her over to bring her home. They both loved this one!This is something I want you to not just try but DO IT! If you want to learn more about Fantasy Friday’s I give more ideas and couples experiences in my best selling book which is accompanied by a free video on “Falling in Love and Staying in Love.”
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Here is to finding and keeping real love!
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D. – Love and Relationship Therapist, Mentor & Coach
The best-selling author of:
Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples
Financial Infidelity; The #1 Relationship Wrecker
Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery