Children have emotional antennae, and they can sense pain and trouble before their parents. The way to help a child through a separation or troubled relations with their parents is thru my theory called “Family Play Therapy. Family Play Therapy is used to cushion the pain a child feels- you can read more about it in my book Adultery the Forgivable Sin.
Children are the symptom bearer of the family, and the child may act out and be very confused. For the case of Sandra Bullock and the 5 year old daughter of Jesse James, it is best if Sandra Bullock continues a close relationship with the child and communicate with Jesse over the child. It is also very hard for Sandra to throw the relationship away she has with the child. She helped fight very hard for her in the custody battle between Jesse James and the mother Janine Lindemulder in 2009.
Tiger Woods and Jesse James are just examples of this society. Sadly, Latest statistics show that 80% of marriages suffer through the ever-growing addiction… adultery. Adultery is caused by stress, loss and separation which leads to the Bio Chemical Craving for Connection. It is greater in risk taking and high profile individuals, as it is a “self medicating thrill seeking high”. Heavily tattooed, motorcycle shop owner- Jesse James filled his risk taking tendencies by indulging in sexual acts with a growing number of women.
When are we going to see this as a disease? It is an epidemic, it is curable. It needs to be seen as a chemical and emotional disease. It is caused by an emptiness that is passed down from generation to generation. We can treat this addiction by balancing the brain chemicals chemically and emotionally. People want to bask in those same hormones they had when they first met. You can bask in those same hormones… but do it with your own partner!
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil is known as the “Adultery Buster” and the #1 Love Expert in the World. She is the author of the Best Selling book Make Up Don’t Break Up (second edition due out March 2010 with accompanying DVD “Falling in Love and Staying in Love for Singles and Couples”) as well as Adultery the Forgivable Sin. Dr. Bonnie focuses on couples, singles and families (including children and her innovative theory- Family Play Therapy) – please visit www.doctorbonnie.com for contact info.
COMING UP: Discovery Health Channel “Unfaithful” featuring Dr. Bonnie and her patients on adultery/cybersex. 9pm EST, April 4th
