There are so many couples breaking up in Hollywood in April alone these 4 couples called it quits. Jennie Garth‘s & David Abrams, Brook Burke & David Charvet, Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan and Kendra Wilkinson & Hank Baskett… Spring is the time of year that turns a man’s fancy to love not break up.

It does not have to be that way – I have a 98 percent success rate of couples who stay together. That is why I say most relationships can be saved. When the “honeymoan” ends and the inevitable power struggle occurs, embrace it instead of running as it leads to the rainbow of real-life love.

We are meant to have challenges with the love of our life, that’s when we “feel out of love,” but we are numb when the power struggle feels foreign after the blissful honeymoon. Yes, you heard me, we unknowingly pick a person that gives us the most trouble, a composite image of the positive and negative traits familiar in our childhood that propels us to think getting rid of a person gets rid of a problem.

This is the reason second marriages are higher in adultery and divorce than first marriages. The dialogue I teach my patients so they can do it without me provides the safety to navigate the power struggle, so it leads to real life love. The journey is worth it and love wins out if you hang in there when the going gets rough. I provide a manual for you in my book Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples with the skills and tools for staying in love. You will also see how my patients, my family, and my husband and I did it. The video that accompanies the book shows real-life couples learning how to make up, not break up. Both the video and the book will help you how to find love and how to stay in love.

Therefore, instead of going for divorce you hang in there and have faith in the power of love like my patients, my parents did it and so did I during the courtship with my husband.

Since most relationships can be saved  there are instances when you need to leave that person. Next week I’ll be sharing with you some questions for you to take a look at to decide whether you should stay or go.

Once you’ve taken a look at the questions and you’ve tried everything and still want to leave, in my book Adultery: The Forgivable Sin  Chapter: “Not for lovers only” –  I show couples 30 ways to leave their lover.

I am here to support you with any questions you may have on how to make up, not break up.  Please do not hesitate to call me directly at 212-606-3787 with your relationship questions.

Here is to finding and keeping real love!

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, Ph.D. – Love and Relationship Therapist, Mentor & Coach

The best-selling author of:

Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery

Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples

Adultery: The Forgivable Sin – Turned into a movie  Unfaithful: Discovery Health

Financial Infidelity; The #1 Relationship Wrecker