Why Break Up to Make Up?
This theory was tried and true and tested in my mother’s courtship to bring about a successful PROPOSAL of marriage as well as my grandmother and my grandfather in their courtship as well as my great grandmother and great grandfather in theirs! It has worked for generations… in my family!
Here are my mother’s and her family’s Smart Heart tips:
- The Break up is done for a specified period of time with both parties giving permission AND DONE WITH LOVE!
- If it is a viable relationship the disconnection triggers the re-connection and the fresh start of the relationship.
- “This brush with death” creates an endorphin high which reignites passion and appreciation for each other if;
- Don’t cave in and “makeup” too soon!
- We have to fear losing someone to raise our anxiety level to a point where we’re willing to face our fears and accept the unknown elements of our future together.
“My fear of losing you is stronger than my fear of loving you!”
This is from a male patient who then proposed after breaking up to make up.
Smart Heart Dialogue from Dr Bonnie’s father before her parents married after THEIR Break Up to Make Up .”You don’t know what you have until you lose it!” (her mother started dating a sailor when her Dad running scared left to go 3000 miles away!)
From Chapter 20: Give your Relationship A Brush With A Death pages 259-263 from Dr Bonnie’s New York Times readers choice award Make Up, Don’t Break Up.
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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil is a renowned international relationship therapist and owner of a NYC private practice, with over 35 years of experience. She specializes in issues related to families, dating, marriage, and infidelity. She developed a theory for addiction called the Bio Chemical Craving for Connection. She is a five-time award winner as New York City’s Best Therapist. Dr. Bonnie is the author of 5 books including best seller and NY Times Readers’ Choice Award winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (including online video: How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity: Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationship Wrecker.” Her book “Adultery: The Forgivable Sin” was turned into the Lifetime movie, “Silence of Adultery.”
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on a 3 day series on The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show5 times and received Best of Oprah in May 2013. She frequently appears on CNN, CBS, NBC, ABC, Fox News and Good Morning America. She has also been featured many times in USA Today, Men’s Health, The New York Times, and Cosmopolitan. Dr. Bonnie also teaches an Education 2 Go Course on “Marriage and Relationships: Keys to Success.
Dr. Bonnie is also available for phone therapy. Call 212-606-3787 for more details and to schedule an appointment with Dr. Bonnie.
