Divorce Party Trend as Social Statement of Unity
Couples turning towards cordial divorces celebrate with Divorce Parties. Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, supports and endorses this trend. “Having a social event that defines the divorce as cordial and sends the message to friends and family that the divorce will not rupture their social circles,” explains Dr. Bonnie who adds that this ritual helps bridge the loneliness gap that usually accompanies divorce.
New York, NY (PRWEB) May 30, 2011
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, family therapist endorses the concept of “divorce parties.” From a recent New York Times article featuring couples throwing parties to “celebrate” their upcoming divorce, debates among psychologists differ. “I think throwing a party for your friends offers an olive branch to friends, family, and extended family members giving the message that the divorce doesn’t have to signal side taking and estrangements among loved ones,” Dr. Bonnie explains.
Generally, parties are for celebrations. Divorce is most often characterized by grief, anger, depression, fear, and depicts the ending of a bad relationship. “However, having a social event that portrays the couple as cordial, working together as a team, and refusing to pit friends against their Ex is a step towards bridging the loneliness gap that so many divorcees face,” Dr. Bonnie says.
In an era where post divorce fights about children, money, and living arrangement issues abound, making a public statement to keep the couples social structure intact is a healthy departure. “While I recommend therapy for most divorced individuals, there is much to be said for social support during the healing process. Keeping instead of losing friends is key during this difficult time of transition for divorcees,” advises Dr. Bonnie.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD is the author of Make Up Don’t Break Up, NY Times Reader’s Choice award for best dating book 2010. The book highlights communication techniques such as the Smart Heart Dialogue. “The Smart Heart Dialogue is a technique that can ideally be used for couples after they end their marriage. This form of communication offers fair discussions for conflict resolution and to avoid escalation of conflict,” Dr. Bonnie adds.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples) and winner of the NY Times Reader’s Choice award for best dating book 2010, Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy).
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary “Infidelity” and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary “Infidelity” and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of the NY Times Reader’s Choice Award winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying In Love counsels couples considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle. Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with communication and connection tools, and counsels families and children.
For interview contact Diane Dennis, Inspired Media Communication at 503-678-1356 or dianeden(at)centurytel(dot)net.
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The Unforgiving Sin
While I always say that Adultery is the Forgivable Sin, some cheating circumstances are not easily forgiven. As I said in a recent USA Today article on the Shriver/Swarzenegger split, “That Schwarzenegger was able to keep the secret for ten years speaks to an emotional deficiency.”
This type of betrayal cannot be forgiven with a simple “I’m sorry.” The circumstances surrounding his cheating will affect his family for generations to come. The fact that his children are old enough to see the news, and read about the details of the affair will make it more difficult for them to heal. In fact these children will be forever scarred, and the legacy of adultery will affect generations to come. I always say that most marriages can be saved, if key issues like adultery are dealt with in a timely matter. In Swarzenegger’s case, trust has been violated by the fact that he waited over ten years to divulge the fact that he fathered a son by a family housekeeper. The timing of his confession to his wife and publicly is also suspect due to the fact that he waited until he was no longer in public office to tell the truth.
My book Adultery the Forgivable Sin outlines the characteristics of a person who cheats, and Arnold fits the bill. A cheater can be described as a thrill seeking person with a high stress and/or high profile career, who is seeking a biochemical craving for connection. Fidelity is a choice. When a person chooses to violate their promise of trust, there will be much work to do for the entire family to heal.
The wounds from this infidelity will run deep for years for all parties involved. To be betrayed in the family home is an unforgivable sin and a hostile act.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples) and winner of the NY Times Reader’s Choice award for best dating book 2010, Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy).
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary “Infidelity” and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at www.DoctorBonnie.com.
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary “Infidelity” and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at www.DoctorBonnie.com.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of the NY Times Reader’s Choice Award winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying In Love counsels couples considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle. Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with communication and connection tools, and counsels families and children.
For interview contact Diane Dennis, Inspired Media Communication at 503-678-1356 or dianeden@centurytel.net
Kentucky Derby: Warning signs of gambling addictions
New York, NY………….As the Kentucky Derby—a national tradition, rolls around with all its rituals and regalia Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy), reminds couples of the warning signs of gambling addictions.
“The Kentucky Derby is a richly traditional event. However people, wherever they are, can get sucked into virtual betting online—another accessible outlet for people addicted to gambling,” warns Dr. Bonnie who adds that she has had many clients who kept their gambling habit a secret until they had taken their family down a path of financial ruin. Dr. Bonnie calls cheating with money financial infidelity. Financial infidelity is another form of cheating, and can be so subtle one doesn’t know they are doing it. Weil considers this addiction as well as others a “self medicating, stress busting, thrill seeking high—like a love drug.”
“Gambling, like all addictions is a bio-chemical craving for connection. When needs aren’t being met, people turn to a quick fix—an activity that gives immediate, but temporary satisfaction or thrill. Unfortunately many of these quick fixes easily turn into compulsive behavior. Once the high wears off from the purchase or behavior, people repeat it until they are in a full- blown addiction. Illicit sex, shopping, and gambling are easier than ever to engage in as all are available at the click of the keyboard from a personal computer.
“When a cycle of financial betrayals become entrenched, It is often just a matter of time before other areas of the relationship are damaged as trust is eroded, communication compromised, and emotional disconnection takes place,” explains Dr. Bonnie.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, relationship therapist, and winner of the NY Times Reader’s Choice Award for best dating book 2010 for Make Up Don’t Break Up reminds couples of the warning sings that their partner might be committing financial infidelity.
“If your credit cards are maxed out, unexplained bank balance transfers or stock and bond selling occurs, there is a good chance a partner is engaged in unhealthy spending,” says Dr. Bonnie.
Dr. Bonnie recommends couples participate in Smart Heart Dialogue (a communication technique originated by Dr. Bonnie and found in her books) to begin the process of reconnecting and meeting each other’s emotional needs so that the addictions, compulsions, or acting out will be replaced with fulfilling the need for emotionally intimate connection.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil (Dr. Bonnie) is a relationship expert who was named by Psychology Today as one of America’s best therapists, and by New York Magazine as one of New York City’s best therapists. Known as “The Adultery Buster” and the “No. 1 Love Expert,” she is the best-selling author of Adultery: The Forgivable Sin (adapted into a Lifetime movie starring actress Kate Jackson), Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (Revised edition Feb 2010, including DVD How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples) and winner of the NY Times Reader’s Choice award for best dating book 2010, Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity (Making Money Sexy).
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary “Infidelity” and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at www.DoctorBonnie.com.
Dr. Bonnie has appeared on ABC’s Good Morning America, a three-day series on NBC’s The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show five times, a four day series on Fox TV regarding dating, Discovery Health documentary “Infidelity” and A&E on addictions. She appears frequently on ABC, Fox, CBS and NBC News, The View, 20/20, and CNN. Visit Dr. Bonnie at www.DoctorBonnie.com.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, PhD, author of the NY Times Reader’s Choice Award winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up with accompanying DVD Falling in Love and Staying In Love counsels couples considering breaking up, people who have committed adultery, and couples who want to strengthen their relationships damaged by resentment or unresolved anger, teaching people to “fight” to increase passion, bring back magic and restore the sizzle. Dr. Bonnie teaches Smart Heart Dialogue along with communication and connection tools, and counsels families and children.