Women often ask how they can determine if the man they’re dating is someone with whom they can have a viable relationship. Here are some guidelines on keeping the relationship going and when you should let go.
When to hang in:
- He makes movement toward you
- He is somewhat conscious of his needs and is willing to be taught about yours
- He is willing to look at his distance and closeness issues
- He spends more time with you, even if he says he doesn’t want to get serious
- He validates your feelings and needs
- He is connectable by instruction (Men need a prescription. They are logical and like to know exactly what to do)
When to let go:
- He treats you like you’re invisible
- He is not spending time with you and keeps making excuses
- He puts you last
- He can’t meet any of your needs
- He calls you demanding (because he can’t meet them)
- He’s inconsistent
- He’s dishonest
- He’s not willing to be conscious of your relationship and work on it together
The natural state for a man is distance. Once you know this, you don’t take it personally anymore. You get smart and learn how to keep the connection going because as a woman, you are the guardian of the connection.
