How to Transition from the Pandemic to “Living Again”?
Dr. Bonnie, therapist and author of Make Up Don’t Break Up encourages us to be in the moment!
And focus on learning how to be joyful again after the unknown, endured in the pandemic.
1. Expect less from yourself and others as you make the bridge to some sense of normalcy.
2. Focus on having “safe”, PLANNED fun ( or it will not happen) and self-care and self-compassion rather then pushing yourself or doing too many “should’s” like chores, as you ease into life again! R and R (rest and relaxation) will help make the transition to recharging, feeling good, and hopeful again!
3. It’s perfectly fine to EASE into being with people, a certain amount of anxiety is normal re: feeling “safe” due to the change in masks, interactions with others.
4. Take a few moments DAILY to take inventory in the morning and before bed of what you are THANKFUL for.
This will give you hope, and keep you positive, to put one foot in front of the other as you transition from the pandemic to “living again”. Remember “act as if” until you get there!
Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil, known as one of America’s best therapists, with more than 35 years’ experience, a global phone-based practice, and a private practice in New York City with a 98% success rate! New York Magazine listed her as one of New York City’s best therapists and the U.S. Commerce Association voted Dr. Bonnie Best Therapist 2011-2018. Dr. Weil’s accolades include recognition from being on The Oprah Winfrey Show five times chosen by Oprah as one of her top 10 shows in 25 years. Dr. Bonnie has also appeared on NBC’s The Today Show that featured her “live” couples who practiced her innovative communication skills from her featured best seller Make Up Don’t Break Up. Dr. Bonnie is frequently featured and gives expert relationship advice on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox News.
The best-selling author of:
Adultery: The Forgivable Sin
Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples
Financial Infidelity; The #1 Relationship Wrecker
Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?
Visit Dr. Bonnie at https://www.DoctorBonnie.com.
Dr. Bonnie is available for phone therapy. Call 212-606-3787 for more details and to schedule an appointment with Dr. Bonnie.
Getting Back to Basics—- Romantic Tips after a Pandemic
If you are reuniting with loved one after the pandemic, ahead of time before getting together discuss how you will hug, if you will hug, who is “safe” ( vaccinated or immune or not) so both are comfortable.
As mentioned before married people have been reluctant to be intimate without safety precautions in place. This has effected bonding and yearning and feeling needed or needing that person.
So something as basic as not communicating and asking your partner their stance on taking a subway or bus or returning to the real office can halt romance after the pandemic .
1. Dr. Bonnie recommends daily and weekly 10 minute chats to discuss” after the pandemic” decisions to “check in” with your partner.
2. If both “safe” from either vaccination or being immune or tested do a 20 sec. hug with your partner for that “rush” or dopamine high DAILY.
3. Do that 30 second kiss DAILY for that oxytocin, to recreate those same chemicals you made when you first fell in love
4. Remember to make up, not break, up you need to stay in “touch” with your partner through REAL “touch”, and face to face communication, looking into each other’s eyes for intimacy.
5. Affirmations 20 seconds a day of why you are so lovable, from your partner and visa versa is how you slowly find your way back to each other!
6. TEXTING or zooming does not cut it!! Gazing in each other’s eyes and “touching” and the actual soothing of your loved one’s voice brings back those oxytocin and dopamine chemicals pre-pandemic and even from yester year to woo you back!
Remember it’s what happens OUTSIDE the bedroom that affects inside the bedroom. Make the time to make up not break up, that includes those of you who break up to make up. Its a CONSCIOUS choice to STAY in love and here’s how to do it so DO IT!!
Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil, known as one of America’s best therapists, with more than 35 years’ experience, a global phone-based practice, and a private practice in New York City with a 98% success rate! New York Magazine listed her as one of New York City’s best therapists and the U.S. Commerce Association voted Dr. Bonnie Best Therapist 2011-2018. Dr. Weil’s accolades include recognition from being on The Oprah Winfrey Show five times chosen by Oprah as one of her top 10 shows in 25 years. Dr. Bonnie has also appeared on NBC’s The Today Show that featured her “live” couples who practiced her innovative communication skills from her featured best seller Make Up Don’t Break Up. Dr. Bonnie is frequently featured and gives expert relationship advice on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox News.
The best-selling author of:
Adultery: The Forgivable Sin
Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples
Financial Infidelity; The #1 Relationship Wrecker
Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?
Visit Dr. Bonnie at https://www.DoctorBonnie.com.
Dr. Bonnie is available for phone therapy. Call 212-606-3787 for more details and to schedule an appointment with Dr. Bonnie.
Why did the lack of touching and hugging for couples during the pandemic cause breakups now?
Why did the lack of touching and hugging for couples during the pandemic cause breakups now?
Dr. Bonnie, author of Make Up Don’t Break Up, is seeing more breakups AFTER the pandemic with even couples that lived together harmoniously during the pandemic. The lack of touch, hugging, kissing can make some “not in the mood”, like “if you don’t use it you lose it “. This can be a false sense of “I’m not feeling it, I’m not in love anymore”. It has to do Dr Bonnie says with oxytocin, the cuddle hormone that is elicited when we kiss or touch or make love! It makes us feel safe and bond with our partner, lack of it can contribute to a “wandering eye, she says in her book Aduitery the Forgivable Sin”.
Many, even engaged or marrieds did not make love or kiss or touch during the pandemic, for fear of exposing their loved ones. As a result many now feel like room mates and mistake this for “falling out of love”, rather then recreating through rituals the same chemicals they made when they first fell in love!
As the USAToday article on May 29 tells us hugging reduces stress, improves the immune system, and Dr Bonnie says gives us a high, a rush from the dopamine it elicits! Touch is a way we communicate and connect and lack of it brings on anxiety or even depression, we misread as I need a new partner to make me feel better.
Dr. Bonnie Eaker-Weil, known as one of America’s best therapists, with more than 35 years’ experience, a global phone-based practice, and a private practice in New York City with a 98% success rate! New York Magazine listed her as one of New York City’s best therapists and the U.S. Commerce Association voted Dr. Bonnie Best Therapist 2011-2018. Dr. Weil’s accolades include recognition from being on The Oprah Winfrey Show five times chosen by Oprah as one of her top 10 shows in 25 years. Dr. Bonnie has also appeared on NBC’s The Today Show that featured her “live” couples who practiced her innovative communication skills from her featured best seller Make Up Don’t Break Up. Dr. Bonnie is frequently featured and gives expert relationship advice on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox News.
The best-selling author of:
Adultery: The Forgivable Sin
Make Up, Don’t Break Up: Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples
Financial Infidelity; The #1 Relationship Wrecker
Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery
Visit Dr. Bonnie at http://www.DoctorBonnie.com.
Dr. Bonnie is available for phone therapy. Call 212-606-3787 for more details and to schedule an appointment with Dr. Bonnie.