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Why is Intimacy so hard to achieve for singles, separated or divorced people?

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Here are 5 tips I recommend to individuals and couples for Staying in Love, Not Just Falling in love!:

  1.  Make friends with your fears as finding Love is letting go of fear;
  2. Desensitize YOURSELF to rejection as men are more sensitive to rejection then women;
  3. Reach out to him if he retreats as disconnection is a man’s way of fear when he IS into you;
  4. He acts the opposite of how he really feels so YOU need to make the first move;
  5. Do not predict the outcome, just stay in the moment.

Use Dr. Bonnie’s tried and true Smart Heart Skills and Dialogue (she used these in her courtship) For an example, “We had such a great time last time. I just received two tickets to the Yankee game, wanna come?” DO NOT MENTION his ghosting you!!

These 5 things will help to ignite your romance and help you to stay in love! Practice! Practice!

From “Make Up, Don’t Break Up” Chapter 9, pg. 98!
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Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil is a renowned international relationship therapist and owner of a NYC private practice, with over 35 years of experience. She specializes in issues related to families, dating, marriage, and infidelity. She developed a theory for addiction called the Bio Chemical Craving for Connection. She is a five-time award winner as New York City’s Best Therapist. Dr. Bonnie is the author of 5 books including best seller and NY Times Readers’ Choice Award winning book Make Up Don’t Break Up, Finding and Keeping Love for Singles and Couples (including online video: How to Fall in Love and Stay in Love for Singles and Couples), Can We Cure and Forgive Adultery?, Staying Not Straying, How Not to (S)mother Your Man and Keep a Woman Happy, and Financial Infidelity: Seven Steps to Conquering the #1 Relationship Wrecker.”  Her book “Adultery: The Forgivable Sin” was turned into the Lifetime movie, “Silence of Adultery.”

Dr. Bonnie has appeared on a 3 day series on The Today Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show 5 times and received Best of Oprah in May 2013.  She frequently appears on CNN, CBS, NBC, ABC, Fox News and Good Morning America. She has also been featured many times in USA Today, Men’s Health, The New York Times, and Cosmopolitan. Dr. Bonnie also teaches an Education 2 Go Course on “Marriage and Relationships: Keys to Success.

Dr. Bonnie is also available for phone therapy. Call 212-606-3787 for more details and to schedule an appointment with Dr. Bonnie.

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